When we decided to homeschool, I was certain that I wanted to be involved in a homeschool community. The boys would need interaction with other boys. I needed it. The boys would need field trips. I needed it. The boys would need co-op classes. I needed it. Did I mention that I needed it?
But never before had I been judged by the number of children that I did NOT have or the size of my uterus (obviously not flourishing, in my case). I distinctly remember sitting week after week in a room that was visibly growing smaller and smaller by expanding pregnant bellies and terminology that I was simply ignorant of until I was simply crowded out.
So I really was uncertain of whether to attend the first meeting of our county homeschool chapter. Maybe "belonging" to a homeschool group was just not for me.
I arrived with my usual punctuality and saw only ONE conversion van. And much to my relief, other moms like myself, who wanted to discuss curriculum, how to make homeschooling more effective, or field trips. NO discussion as how to add one more car seat to an already full 8 passenger van or how to begin nursing a child already weaned after a new baby is born.
That was the day I met Gina. We (I) began talking and didn’t stop. She seemed so “normal” and when I walked outside and saw her Mustang, I was certain! Our friendship blossomed over emails, spinach-feta croissants, and latte’s.
It was over a 5-hour coffee that she invited me to a Ladies Conference hosted by her church. A Southern tea complete with an 1880's fashion show. Oh, what fun!
But did I mention the subject of the conference?
Contentment.
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Love,
Lisa
Love,
Gina
I am very glad you have a confidant/friend. H schooling here in Ireland is not popular and it isn't east to find people for me to chat to about our lifestyle.
God bless.
Ruth
As an only child...and with no children (yet) myself, I say heaven help us!! (Keep me in your prayers:)
Soo happy you've connected with a new friend...certainly a blessing.
I had to smile when I read your post. I am part of a wonderful homeschool community, but I have to say that I have come across some views/beliefs that have surprised--nay, shocked me! And I consider myself quite open-minded! But each to their own. I have learned that there is no one right way of doing things--each family has to find their own path with the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
But at the same time, I have SO felt the exact pressure you describe. It's made me try to analyze my own conversations and friendships in light of including diverse people...not just always looking to hook up with someone who will amen my every thought.
That said, there is nothing like making a new friend who "gets" you, especially after a big move. It's light at the end of the tunnel.
Happy New Year.